Today’s guest is Dr. Rennes Toussaint-Keshinro. Dr Rennes and I talk about redefining your identity, how we struggle in silence, wearing masks and pretending to be happy, as well as the journey to self-discovery and how important both your mental health and faith are during all aspects of this journey.
She is a Doctor of Chiropractic, mental wellness coach and mental health advocate. Her story includes her migration to the US at age 13, struggling to find her identity yet excelling in her education. After completing her doctorate degree, she decided to go on a self-discovery journey which led her to South America for 3 years. What got her through this time was connecting closer to God, focusing on her self development and DANCE. This is where her Dance 4 Mental Health Movement started. Dance for Mental Health encourages women who are suffering in silence to find their identity, their voice and to take back their power. She understands the connection of the mental and physical body and why it should not be looked at separately. Her goal is to inform, educate and build awareness about mental health, especially in the black community. She is also the owner of Sign of Strength LLC, a mental health awareness shop. Connect with Dr Rennes on Instagram
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Dr. Rennes: Do not rob the world from experience in you because you have a light God gave you a light. So if you don’t shine it, you are leaving darkness in the world, you’re leaving people in the dark.
Tiffany: Hey. Hey beacon, welcome home to your ballsack blueprint community Podcast, where you are challenged to be do and have God’s best as you thrive on your journey from setback to success. I’m your bounce back guide, Tiffany Huff-Strothers. And I’ll be guiding you on the journey by sharing tips, tools, and the T on how I was able to bounce back from escaping death, healing from heartbreak and finding hope in homelessness. And then I wrote an award winning book all about it and shout out to God, ever since I was courageous enough to share my story, my life and the lives of winding around that have been forever on the show and as a member of the manatee call you to let me tell you a little bit, grab your journal, and let’s build this amazing conversation. She is a Doctor of Chiropractic, a mental health mental wellness coach and mental health advocate. Her story includes her migration to the US at age 13, struggling to find her identity yet excelling in her education. After completing her doctorate degree, she decided to go on a self discovery journey which led her to South America for three years. What got her through this time was connecting closer to God focusing on herself development and dance. This is where her new dance for the mental health movement started. Dance for mental health encourages women who are suffering in silence, to find their identity, their voice and to take back their power. She understands the connection of the mental and physical body and why it should not be looked at separately. Her goal is to inform, educate and build awareness about mental health, especially in the black community. She is also the owner of sign of strength LLC, a mental health awareness shop. Welcome to the show, Rennes.
Dr. Rennes: Thank you so much for having me. I’m so excited to be here.
Tiffany: I’m so excited that you are here. I cannot wait to dig into this conversation. But before we do, please introduce yourself to the community. I feel that we do that the best ourselves. So tell us who is Dr. Rennes beyond the bio.
Dr Rennes: Nice. Awesome. So like you said, I’m Dr Rennes Tousssaint-Keshinro, first and foremost, I am a child of God. I practice chiropractic here in New York. As a mental wellness coach. As you mentioned, I work with women who are struggling in silence to find their density and to take back their power. And as a mental health advocate, especially in the black community. My goal is to just to help break the stigma about mental health and why we should invest in our mental health not only financially but also with time, right. Besides that, I am a newlywed. I got married about three months ago. So thank you. So that has been pretty exciting. I’m an outdoor person. I love nature. I love traveling. So you understand COVID is like killing me right now.
Tiffany: Yes, I know you are an avid traveler, I see all of your photos on Instagram from travels of the past. Of course, yes. Because COVID is trying his best to just ruin everything for us. But you got married in the midst of the pandemic. Let’s talk about that.
Were you already planning to get married this year? Or did you just decide, you know what, let’s do this.
Dr Rennes: No, we had a wedding planned for August. And we were holding on to the hope that everything will be fine. But then eventually we had to cancel. And well, we actually push back the wedding and the celebration. But we decided that we’re not going to wait to start our marriage. So we went ahead and still got married this year.
Tiffany: That’s awesome. Good for you. I think that if 2020 hasn’t taught us anything is that in a lot of cases, even in the midst of the pandemic, you need to push through, right. You gotta at least attempt to keep going.
Dr Rennes: Mm hmm. Plants are going to change you got to learn how to cope and pivot.
Tiffany: Yes, yeah. So that takes us right into where I want to start because I would like to take the listeners on this journey with you. And at a very early age of 13. You had to kind of pivot when your family migrated to the United States. So tell us A little bit about where you migrated from, and how that transition was for you as a preteen girl.
Dr Rennes: Okay,
so I was born in the Caribbean, a Caribbean island called Dominika Not to be confused with Dominican Republic, totally different Island. And I grew up in a very small village, my village, the population was only about 200 people, Max. So very, very small town girl. So growing up there, everybody always talks and dreams about coming to America. So when we got the opportunity to come over, it was so exciting, like, Oh, my God, you’re going to America. But I love my upbringing. I love my culture. And it’s still a huge part of me and everything that I do. But yeah, that’s where I grew up and come into America. First. It was I guess it was excited. But then it became it started, it became challenging, because our parents never sat down and have the conversation of Okay, you’re we’re migrating was the transition is going to be like, as kids we were, we were expected to just adapt naturally to the changing environment. So it was interesting.
Tiffany: So at what point did you start to feel that it was more challenging for you? Or did you start to struggle with who you were or how you fit into this new way of life here in the United States.
Dr Rennes: So I would say the the first thing that was very challenging for me is yes, we grew up in a small village, but my mom had her own business, we had our we had our own home, you know, we had a yard, we had freedom. And we went from that to moving into a two bedroom, one bathroom apartment in Miami, with my dad and his roommate. So that was a huge transition. And then trying to adapt to school. When we started school, we might I say, we, because my brother and I have a brother who is one year older than I am, we started Middle School at the eighth grade. So that’s the end of the middle of middle school at the end of the school year, like an April. So everyone had to click their friends do circles. So trying to fit in, I always had the sense of like, where I belong, like a sense of belonging, like where do I fit in, you know, a young girl from the Caribbean, I have an accent, you know, I became conscious of my voice, I became very insecure about that. So I went from being like an extrovert, like, you know, this fun life of the party to just, you know, being very reserved and shy. So that definitely started affected my identity. But I will take you back from growing up in Dominica. Remember, even before I was five, like my family, I guess they saw something in me like my family would put me into pageants and competitions and things like that. I skipped the second grade. So I feel like I always had this unspoken expectation of me to like, do all these great things. I had the good girl image, I was the youngest of three kids. We grew up in a Catholic Church. So we had certain ways of like how a little girl is supposed to act a little girl supposed to do certain things. But on the butt behind closed doors, I was being abused sexually, and nobody knew. Right? So I learned from a very young age to basically live like a sacred life. Like I felt like I lived a double life. You know, on the surface, I was doing all this great things. But I have this horrible thing happening to me at that time. I didn’t think it was horrible, honestly. But it was nonetheless, it was a secret that I was holding away from, you know, from my family and the people that I love. So I always like I said, I always felt like I lived like this double life, and especially coming to America at home, I’m a certain way. And at school, I was a certain way. So it was
Tiffany: Oh, how did you reconcile? Or At what point? Did you reconcile those two identities, The Secret Life at home and then the life outside of the home? And perhaps there was a third one that was created when you got here? Trying to find yourself in the midst of being a preteen at school with clicks and all of the things how did you or when did you begin to recognize that you? It was it was taking a lot out of you to manage all of these personas.
Dr Rennes: Honestly, maybe not until in my 20s or you can highschool it was normal for me. I guess that was like my survival mode like, Oh, I’m supposed to figure it out. What was more important for me is to keep that Oh, she’s such a good girl. She’s doing well in schools, it was more important for me to keep that image. Right. So anyway, nothing else matters as long as everybody see me as being good. I was fine.
Tiffany: So I’m sorry. So once you got it as the the abuse Did, did the abuse stop, because Oh, okay. So it was no longer part of the well, I’m sure the once you realized, like you said that it was wrong, then you had to deal with that trauma. But as if, at the time when you moved here, you no longer necessarily had to deal with that in the moment.
Dr Rennes: No, I didn’t deal with that in the moment at all. Yeah, thankfully. But the damage was already done. And I was still trying to cope through life.
Tiffany: Yes. So what happened in your 20s that caused you to have an epiphany or this shift where you realized this survival mode I’ve been operating in all of these years is not normal.
Dr Rennes: Um, I got another thing about me is I threw myself into like I said, in my education, I excelled the education. So I was, at the time I was receiving my doctorate degree. And I’m getting to the end of the program. I’m about to start real world, right. Um, get a doctor degree like, That’s amazing. Everybody, everybody’s looking at me like, Oh, my God, you’re you did it. But inside, I didn’t, I wasn’t happy. I was so unhappy. I was so depressed. Right before that. Well, throughout chiropractic school, I was in part, I will say horrible relationships. But I wouldn’t even call it relationships, I would say situation ships. And it was like, I had three bad situations. Back to back, unfortunate situation back to back where every time at the end of the relationship, I will get the man You’re so good, but you’re a good person, but dot dot dot.
Tiffany: It’s not you. I mean, it’s not you. It’s me.
Dr Rennes: It’s me, right. But they reminded me that being a quote unquote, good girl, or faking to be a good girl was not good enough. Because what I was doing is being good for other people, like doing things for them for them to validate me. So basically, I was people pleasing, right? So they were that those situations reminded me that I wasn’t being good to myself. I didn’t love myself, I didn’t pour into myself. So at that time, I was like, I can’t continue going on like this. Like, it has to stop.
Tiffany: So you have this epiphany, you make this decision. And so once you make the decision that you’re no longer gonna go on like this. What do you do?
Dr Rennes: Well, like I said, I love to travel right. My ending of my, my externship from my program, my doctorate program, I took, I went to Ghana, I spent about three months in Ghana, working in a chiropractic office there. And when I came back to the US, it’s like, I don’t want to be here anymore. I don’t want to be anywhere. I need to have this experience. Again, like I felt being away from my environment. I felt different. And I wanted to continue that experience. So I packed up suitcases and I did ended up in Peru, South America. I apply for a job. Three weeks later, I was I packed my bags. I was like, I’m out. I’m going
Tiffany: Why? Wow. So you literally were just like, Okay, I’m done being here. Let me just figure out where I’m gonna go. How did you decide on through?
Dr Rennes: At the time, it felt like it was desperation. People didn’t know that, but I was applying when I came back from Ghana. I was like, Listen, I’m gonna apply wherever it could be in Australia. I am going whoever except me. I had that mindset. I was like, I don’t care. I am going. But I really do. Looking back. It’s like God probably called me there because the experience was so so amazing. So Peru was the one who picked up the bread, my my CV. They I did the interview with them. They loved me. They offered me that they were the first person to offer me a job and I took it. So you Apply for this job, you move to Peru and then what? And then what I saw I took the contract was one year, I ended up staying there for two years. So when I moved there initially, again, just like my transition from Dominika to the US, I was like, Oh, yes, this is amazing. And I was excited. But then the reality hit me that one, I was alone. One, it’s really time to do the work, which I did. Thankfully, I stayed. The beginning, I almost came back home in the beginning. Um, there were situations where I was just like, I can’t do this. But the work is hard. Right. Healing is hard.
Tiffany: You know, and I think it’s so interesting. I want you to continue, but I think I do think it’s very interesting how God will completely remove us from our home or normal environment. Yeah. So that he has us all to ourselves. Not that there was no one else in Peru with you. Right. But you didn’t know anyone there. It was a place where it was you and God and God and you hear you. Yes. And so when that’s the case, there is not much else to do besides the work.
Dr Rennes: Yeah, you gotta look and you got to look inside, you got to look internally. Like once the same things keep showing up. At the end of the day, you have to tell yourself, what, what do I need to do differently? I can’t keep going on like this. So being in Peru, that helps me to like, stop. Yeah, I really look at myself. Because back home, so many distractions, you have friends family, if I’m down, I just called my friends like, hey, let’s go out. Let’s do this, you know?
Tiffany: Yeah. So when you got to Peru, and you asked yourself that question, what came up for you? One question, specifically, when you ask yourself, you know, why does this keep happening? Or, you know, what am I doing or not doing? What was coming up for you that you had to work through
Dr Rennes: my mindset.
People pleasing showed up. That was a huge thing. I was hiding how I felt for my entire life, right? Just to one make other people comfortable, but also so that they could like me, right? I didn’t like myself.
I was doing exactly. Everybody liked me. Everyone’s like, Oh, she’s so nice. And I didn’t like myself. So that’s what showed up. Like you need to start loving yourself. You can’t go out looking for love. If you don’t give it to yourself, you have to give to yourself. Love only comes from me. So that’s what I really learned earlier on in Peru. Love yourself.
Tiffany: And what was that journey like for you to begin to love yourself? Because, you know, and I asked this because I think a lot of people you know, it’s our culture now. It’s like self care, love yourself. self love. It’s so important. But for the person who’s been struggling, or the person who’s been people pleasing, or assuming this alternative identity, so that people get who they expect to say, Well, you’ve got to love yourself is very, it’s very big, right? bring that down to, on a day to day level on a week to week level, that journey. What does it look like? How did you even start out once you had that realization?
Dr Rennes: That’s a good point. Because I feel like when people talk about self love, like, Oh, it’s such a beautiful thing. And it is, but from the journey of to self love. It’s a very, very uncomfortable journey,
Dr Rennes: Like I said, Before, I was lying to myself all this years, that I started to believe the lies, right? So self love is really just being truthful. Right? You have to tell yourself the truth no matter what. And that is hard. is extremely hard to be able to look at yourself, and just let it all out. Like just just being just just being vulnerable with yourself first and accepting it. So like accepting that yes, yes. And, and a part of it is accepting it, but also not blaming yourself.
Tiffany: That’s good.
Dr Rennes: Because that was. That was something I did even from the sexual abuse. I blamed myself for it. I thought it was my fault. So had to learn how to accept everything that has happened to me, and know that it’s not my fault. So and that is a huge part of self love.
Tiffany: Yeah, I would, I would have to agree. It’s because if you don’t accept that it’s not your fault, then you can get stuck there. Yeah. Right. So you have to be willing to forgive yourself. Mm hmm. Recognize the decisions that you made that may have impacted your life, but also forgive yourself so that you can move forward?
Dr Rennes: Yes, absolutely.
Tiffany: So So did you do all of this alone? Or did you go to therapy in Peru?
Dr Rennes: So I started doing before I went to Peru, I did a little bit of therapy here in the US, but when I was in Peru, I did coaching. And the coaching was in Yeah, Mm hmm.
Tiffany: Wow. And so how long did you coach?
Dr Rennes: I coached? Well, I would say the entire time I was there, but luckily, a lot of it was virtually so.
Tiffany: Okay. Okay. So you were in Peru for two years? And what would you say? What would you say was different about Dr. Nunez when she arrived in Peru versus at the end of that two years?
Dr Rennes: Where do I start? I felt more of my, well, first of all, I knew who I was, I had a clearer understanding of who I was, like, I grew up in the church. I mean, I had a huge gap when I first moved to the US. But you know, my dad didn’t really take us to church. So, but I always knew who God was. But at the end of that journey, I really came to understand who I am like, I am a daughter of God, like he wants the best for me. And it was, it was so hard for me to comprehend that, like, I could have it all because I’m a daughter of a king, he will give me everything that I want. You know,
Tiffany: I’m curious what happened with you and or your relationship with God that you were able to comprehend that because I mean, I appreciate you even being transparent. And saying that because I know that there are people, and I’m doing air quotes who believe, but who haven’t fully embraced the truths about what it means to believe what it means to be a doctor of the Most High. So what happened that your comprehension of that increased?
Dr Rennes: Like you said, Sometimes he takes you away from our normal environment, so we could be alone with him. For the first time I was able to hear from God. Like for years, it’s like you will hear stories of people who said, Oh, my God, you know, God spoke to me. And for years, like What’s wrong with me? God is not speaking to me, right? We expect God to be like, hey, daughter, this is what you know. I never know how to be in tune with myself right in tune the Holy Spirit. Listen to my intuition. For the first time I learned what it meant to meditate. When I meditate. I hear from God, I started paying attention to my dreams. Like I started to have really vivid dreams, like, oh my god. So that’s how I really knew God was real. Because I took time, like, that was my time to really be with him be in his presence. And I felt it.
Tiffany: Yes. So creating space. And that. Yeah, and I think, you know, kind of going back to what you said before, a lot of us are in situation ships with God. Right? Like, it’s like, well, we got this thing, but like, not all the time, but like sometimes and when you get into that space, where and I believe you said at one point, it’s desperation. Mm hmm. Things start to shift. Yeah. So it was at the end of the two years. Was it was it in Peru during that two years that you started dancing or was it after?
Dr Rennes: Okay, so I did two years in Peru and then I did one year Honduras. That was another experience. But again, I just spoke about dreams. Like I had a vivid dream God sent me to Honduras, and which, yeah, but the dance of mental health IT DID started while I was in Peru, but actually, I was dancing because I felt like every morning, I play music, and I dance, and I felt amazing. And I was saying I need to start a dance for health movement. But it wasn’t until last year that I connected dance for mental health, because it helps us feel good. Like our brains actually releases feel good hormones while we not only dance, but any type of movement exercise running, but my exercise of choice is dancing. Like to work out. So that’s how I connected dance for mental health. Okay, I
Tiffany: want to dig into that. But first, I have to go back. How did you go from Peru to Honduras? What was this dream? What was this transition?
Dr Rennes: So very vivid. I know God. It was, okay, let me see how go put it. So I dreamt that God says go to this country and the country. Honduras starts with the letter H sound just like that was few days prior. And that was kind of in the transition. Okay, it’s my time to move on. Let me see where I should go. And a job from Honduras came up. And when I saw you, it was like perfect time and the doctor she was about to leave to come back to the US. So we I spoke to her again, over Skype, or we had a Skype interview. And she’s like, Listen, I want you to come to take over my practice. And I was like, okay, and two weeks I was in Honduras. Wow.
Tiffany: Yeah. Wow. Okay. self discovery, I’m sure continued in Honduras,
Dr Rennes: did it?
Tiffany: What would you say? And so how long were you in Honduras?
Dr Rennes: for about a year
Tiffany: or a year? So what was the biggest shift for you in that year?
Dr Rennes: I experienced some really traumatic things there. And I know it sounds crazy, because I just said God sent me there. And then some people would think, Well, why would God send you somewhere to experience those things? I was living in a house and the culture over there is to have a maid. So the doctor I took over her practice, she had a maid and the her maid left with her. So she hired one for me. I experienced her almost trying to commit suicide. Where are we at that time, we had a language barrier. Like I like my Spanish was getting there. Um, I had to experience taking her to a hospital. And the doctor looking at me and said, we can do anything and she’s just going to die. She took some pills, right? And I’m just a hysterically like crying like what do you mean? And he was just like, Who is this person to you? It’s like, she’s a human being. Um, so that was, that was super traumatic. I experienced betrayal. Where I trusted certain a certain someone and they literally stole from me and lied to me. And mind you, I’m in a country again, where I knew absolutely no one. But on the flip side, I got into a community of other of missionaries. And there they are the ones that really poured into me and really helped me experience God in a much deeper way. And had not had I had not gone to Honduras. I don’t think I’ll ever experienced that.
Tiffany: So why did you leave Honduras?
Dr Rennes: Oh, I was ready.
I was I left of the journey.
Yes. I didn’t. I didn’t run away in the middle of the craziness that was going on. And a lot of people was like, why are you still here? You need to come home. And I was like, No, you know, I want to make a commitment. I like to be true to my word. So I stayed up as long as I could. And then like it was my time to come back home and face the call it the music of being back in the US and being around my family. So
Tiffany: Oh, how was that re entry. It was almost like my migrating to the US again. Right? And you were a different Rene is when you got back. Did you go back to Miami?
Dr Rennes: No, I ended up moving to New York of all places. So I came from Hunter’s to New York. Yes.
Tiffany: So how was that transition and the transition back into not only life in the US, but life with your family, and perhaps with your friends.
Dr Rennes: I loved it. My relationship with my family got so much better. I don’t think I mentioned that earlier. But throughout high school, and even college, I lashed out a lot. I’m never Belgian, not just being rebellious, but just having that anger towards my family. But once I went through my journey, and understanding and not blaming them for the things I’ve been through, my relationship has been so so good with my family. So it’s been it was a really great transition.
Tiffany: That’s good. Yeah. Apparently the experience, you know, yeah, we have some friction with people when we step into our fullness. Mm hmm. Walk in our truth. So I’m glad to hear that. You are welcomed. Yes, home? Yeah. Did you come back to the US and get another job doing chiropractic work?
Dr Rennes: Yes. So I’m still practicing
as a chiropractor? Yes.
Tiffany: And so how long ago? Was it that you are How long has it been that you’re back now in the US from that?
Dr Rennes: Um,
it’s been actually, exactly three years. I came back in December of 2017. Yes, three years.
Tiffany: So over the course of these three years, you become more involved in mental health awareness, and become an advocate what triggered that?
Dr Rennes: Oh, after my journey, after what I went through, I, for years, I suffered in silence, I really did not know what it was. And once I went through that journey, I was like, man, why don’t we talk about this? Like, we need to be more vocal. If I have struggled with that. I know for a fact, other people are struggling with it. So I really just want it it just started by, I’m just going to talk about mental health here and there. And I’ve felt like God placed it on my heart. That’s what I should say, God placed it on my heart, because I was like, there’s something else I need to be doing. I felt some type of emptiness. And he said, talk about your journey, talk about mental health. So I started by just creating t shirts. It’s like, Oh, just create some t shirts and sell some t shirts. And that was in 2018. Then last year, I was like, that is cute, but you need to do something else, you need to go deeper. So that’s why I started coaching. Through coaching women through the journey.
Tiffany: And then so and I will say that T shirts are a great conversation starter, especially if you have the right quote, or you know, one liner on their article conversation. That could take you a lot of places, but I can totally hear God saying like, that’s cute. But yeah, that’s not what I said. That’s not what I told you. Let’s try again. Yeah, right. So you start coaching, and this is in addition to your chiropractic work, right? Yeah. So what happened last year, that you made that connection with the dancing and, you know, the mental and the physical and merged the two?
Dr Rennes: I’m not exactly sure when it happened, but I knew because I said from Peru, I was like, man, I need to do this dance thing. And I carried that over like, before going to Peru, the only time I would dance like well, in my young adult years, was like, Hey, girl, let’s go to the club. Let’s go to the bottom here. No, and just start into dance be just started dancing at home. I brought that over here. When I came back. If I’m feeling down, you know, I’ll play some music and I will dance. I was like, man, I really need to do this. I’ve been saying this for years. did some research. I’m just like, wow, it’s right there in plain sight, you know? And in my practice, I said all the time this people will come to me you know, the neck pain, headaches, back pain, and they don’t associate it with their emotional trauma then the mental. They asked all the time I experienced you know, experiencing higher levels of stress and right away like oh, no, I’m fine. I’m fine, but I could literally Feel it in their body and their muscle, the tension, I could tell. And sometimes I ask and they’ll say, How do you know? Like I could feel in your body. The thing is that our body is made for movement. And also a body is made to feel, right feeling is like sensation in our body. So put in dance, and mental health together is just the perfect marriage for me.
Tiffany: Yeah, I definitely recognize your passion for it. And, you know, I’m sure it sounds funny. But let’s just be honest, when you in my experience Anyway, when you had those times, like you said, when you were going through something that you’d be like, Girl, let’s just go out, get on the dance floor and letting it all go does help. Like it does change your life necessarily, but you feel a little bit better. We do are like just releasing it all and getting into the vibe, of course, you know, not the same necessarily intention while you’re doing it. But it did help.
Dr Rennes: Like you said the intention. So now with the my dental mental health program, it’s not only dancing, but what is the intended intention behind it? Right? What are the thoughts that you’re having? What are the feelings that you want to create, and you can use dance and movement, like I said, Our body is made for movement, we’re supposed to move and use it and that to create the feeling that you want, create a new thought, process, create, like, introduce your mind to something different. Um, so that’s a good point that the intention is different from just like, Hey, girl, let’s go out. And most of the time, you’re not only dancing, you’re drinking as well. So
Tiffany: yeah, that’s good. So how did you know that now? Was the time for you to release your new course dance for mental health? Like, what was it? I feel like you’ve done so many big things and 2020 Yeah. You know, what the marriage and then birthing this. So how did you know now was the time?
Dr Rennes: So actually, before the pandemic in February for my 33rd birthday, my Jesus here, I hosted my first live dance for mental health class was. Yeah, it was in February, I had the first live class here in New York. And it was like, so amazing. I was excited. I was like, Yes, I’m gonna have another one next month. And the pandemic happened. COVID happened. And going back, I always tell people, I’m not a trained dancer, I can’t do an eight count to save my life. I cannot do a count. Don’t ask me. But I know how to move. So that was around the same time in February we for we that’s how I met you through our coaching program in Patrice Washington. And then our clarity coach to Tia Jones. She suggested like, Hey, why don’t you do it online? You know, there’s a lot of people at home. A lot of people are struggling right now. You know, everybody loves to dance, do it at home. And then I was kind of resistant. Like, I don’t know, I mean, I just had a live class. You know, that was amazing. I don’t know about this online thing. But I thankfully, I listened. And I started hosting like free dance for mental health classes online. And it was amazing. I went on for like two or three months. And I took a little pause and doing other things. You know how that goes. And then this year, well, last month, I decided to go ahead and officially launch the dancer mental health program.
Tiffany: tell us a little bit about the program, who’s it for and so on expect as they move through the program.
Dr Rennes: Yeah, so the program is for women. Like I said, I love to work with women who suffer in silence. So just like just how I struggled like, you know, cool to know who you are, you know, to help them find their identity, let them find your health and find your voice, taking back their power mean and just knowing who they are, know people pleasing, standing in the truth. So the program will is included like weekly live dance classes. I’m also teaching a model of how to create results that you want in your life. So there’ll be self study lessons like pre recorded assignments, like to do the work. We’re not only dancing, I want you to do the work on yourself. And having a community which was a huge thing for me. As you know, it was a huge thing for us this year. Just having a community community have like minded women having that support and encouragement. So yeah, basically that’s what the program is about the goal at the end of the program, that you know how to coach yourself throughout life, that you become more self confident. Like you stand in your power, your standing your truth, and you just be unapologetic.
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at that word. Ugly You mean you and your authentic self. So yeah,
Tiffany: I love it. I absolutely love it. So for the woman who is right now, in the midst of this journey, or at the beginning of this journey, and she just wants to start somewhere, can you suggest a song or a scripture or even a journaling question that she could begin to coach herself with to just start to get up and get moving and start doing the work?
Dr Rennes: So I love dancing all types of music and Caribbean I love African music, but there’s nothing better than a good worship song. praise and worship song. And one of my favorite ones this year was snatch way maker way me cuz I can’t sing.
Tiffany: Kill two people. I know the song.
Dr Rennes: So that is my jam. Um, as far as the verse has, this verse has always been my favorite still is and that’s Jeremiah 2911. For I know, the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you a hope and a future. And a journal question, this is a good one, start journaling and ask yourself, what is the story? What is my story? What am I telling myself about myself? Write it out, write it out? Once we write certain things out, once we take it from our head and put it on paper? Sometimes we read through it, it’s like it doesn’t make any sense.
Tiffany: That’s right. That’s right. I would I would add to complement what you have just said, I would say that you meditate on Jeremiah 2911 and 12. Because that next verse says, and you will seek Me and you will find me. And it’s so important to know God’s truth, but also to know that you have to be aligned with him to really fully embrace and comprehend it like you shared. And that question is so powerful, and so much can come like you could journal through that question for months. Oh, yes, absolutely. And then to extend to ask yourself, why, right? Like, what are you telling yourself? And why are you telling yourself that right?
Dr Rennes: And what are you telling yourself? Does it align with what God is saying about you know, daughter of God, does that align? And a lot
Tiffany: of times it doesn’t, it doesn’t. That’s right. And this is work that you can start to do now. Like it does not require you to go to Peru or Honduras, or even leave your bedroom. If you’re right, like you can do the work right we
right now, yeah, of course,
if you want to go further you can get with Rene’s for the dance for mental health courts, so please tell the community where they can find you in these internet streets where definitely be dancing,
Dr Rennes: I will definitely be dancing. on my Instagram. I’m most active on my Instagram at Dr. Rennes is dr dot r e n n e s. And then you could find the links to my website.
Tiffany: are to link to your T shirt store, which has some really cute shirts. And I’ll make sure to link to dance for mental health and of course, your Instagram page. Yes. Well, I want to thank you so much for coming on and sharing your journey. And I want to thank you too for the work that you are doing and the way that you encourage you always when I come past your page on Instagram, I’m always no matter how I’m feeling is like yes, let me listen to the music is always so upbeat. You always have so much energy. I love it. And so I’m really glad that we had the opportunity to talk I want to give you the floor and the opportunity to leave our community with any favorite quote or words of encouragement that you would like to share.
Dr Rennes: Thank you first of all, thank you so much for having me again. This is the message I would tell my younger self is don’t rob the world. From experience and who you are, we all have a light. And if we don’t shine that light or walk in that light, we leave darkness in the world, right? We leave people in darkness. So just be you.
Tiffany: Because I believe the very same thing about lightning. And I believe that, especially those of us who have had some experiences that God is calling us to us that we are beacons of, of possibility. And so those words resonate so well with me, and I’m sure the beacons in the community so yes, tell them again, one more time.
Dr Rennes: Do not rob the world from experiencing you because you have a light, God gave you a light. So if you don’t shine it, you are leaving darkness in the world, you’re leaving people in the darkness.
Thank you so much for having me. I had fun.
Tiffany: I was so blessed by this conversation with my girl Dr. Nunez and I pray that you were to if you were to do me a favor, take a moment and leave a review. When you do you create an opportunity for another beacon to find this episode and get these gems dropped and the support she needs and if you need some additional support, if you are ready to go to the next level, and really begin to do the work so that you can shine your light and do and be and have all that God called you to but you’re struggling with where to start or how to come up with a plan. I would love to work with you. You can grab the link in the show notes and schedule your breakthrough firstname.lastname@example.org slash your bounce back guide and we can spend some time talking about how I can help you get to your next level. I look forward to talking with you. And of course I will leave you with this. God is not going to play you but if you are out here in the streets, dimming your light when he will have you shine it I promise you are playing your self be blessed!