We are rarely prepared with the grief that comes with growth, the unbecoming process necessary as we become. In this episode Tiffany is sharing transparently about the resistance we often face when God is calling us to more, and how we often get in our own way and offers some journal prompts you can use weekly as you grow forward in this season.

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2 Peter 1:3-10 NIV + MSG

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Hey beacon, welcome home to your bounce back blueprint community Podcast, where you are challenged to be do and have God’s best. As you thrive on your journey from setback to success. I’m your bounce back guide, Tiffany Huff-Strothers. And I’ll be guiding you on the journey by sharing tips, tools, and the T on how I was able to bounce back from escaping death, healing from heartbreak and finding hope in homelessness. And then I wrote an award winning book all about it, and shout out to God, ever since I was courageous enough to share my story. My life and the lives of women around the world have been forever changed. And as a member of the bounce back blueprint community, I’m called to teach you to do the same. So grab your journal, and let’s build this blueprint. Hey, begin. Hey, what do you do, boo, I am so excited to continue building the blueprint with you this week. So let’s hop right in. We are going to kick off in a new form of fashion with this week’s highs and lows. So I’ve had several highs this week, but one that I will share with you is that I had an amazing Sunday, this past Sunday, my husband and my younger son and I, we went to breakfast. And then we decided since it was such a beautiful day The sun was shining, to go up to the local outlet mall. And so we went up to the local outlet mall, we just hung out, I got myself a new pair of running shoes, because your girl is ready to get back to run in the streets. And so it was just a beautiful day. And then later on my husband and I went for a nice drive. And we’re able to just talk and really enjoy a day stress free not worried about business not worried about anything actually just really embracing and having gratitude for the little things in life that are at our disposal every day. And sometimes when we get caught up in all of the nuances we lose sight of so Sunday was definitely my high for the week. And then my love for this week is that several of the clients that I am working with to write their stories, their their season, is coming to an end. And so while it’s great that they are moving forward and preparing to publish their book, it’s sad. For me, it’s a low for me, because I’ve been working with them for about six months, now we’ve bonded and you know, I’m going to miss them. And so it’s one of those lows, that’s actually a high. And I really want to challenge you to look at all of your lows, and see the high that comes with it see what blessing or lesson or opportunity for you to grow forward is wrapped up in your low. So in this case, I am absolutely positively going to miss spending time with these ladies every week, as we’ve been doing for the past several months. However, I am super excited to see them come out of their cocoons and become the beautiful butterflies that they have been doing the work to become and also to see how impactful their stories are going to be for all of the women who have the opportunity to be blessed by them. And that also creates an opportunity for you. If you have been feeling stuck. If you have been feeling like you can’t get clear or you don’t know what to do next. If you’re overwhelmed with everything you have to do when you don’t know how to prioritize if you’re ready for your transformation and want to come out of your cocoon, and be the beautiful butterfly that God called and created you to be and you’re looking for a guide. I am right now, taking new coaching clients and I would love to have a conversation with you about how we can work together to bring your beautiful transformation to life. You can grab the link in the show notes, which is bit.li slash your bounce back guide to schedule a breakthrough session. And we can see how we can work together to make some magic I would love to do that. Now, if you don’t already have it, grab your journal so we can get to building this blueprint. As I shared last week, there will be some changes one of which is that we’re going to start each episode with highs and lows and also with the question in true coffee and clarity form. So the question Today is, is it time for you to level up? Is it time for you to level up. And sometimes it’s challenging to know, right? For sure, you may be in a great space, maybe you have a good rhythm going, or you can see the trajectory, you have this vision, you have a plan, you’re marking things off the list. But this week, I want to talk to you about the heat that comes with leveling up, and specifically, a conversation that God and I had about leveling up. So you know, summer is on the horizon. Like I said, this past weekend, it was really warm here. And I know it’s about to be it’s about to get hot. And let me tell you, in this leveling up process, it can be a challenge to keep your focus in the heat sometimes, especially when God sees fit to make you feel even, well hotter. You know what I mean? When you feel like all eyes are on you, when you’ve been pressing God to answer your prayer, then he does and now he’s pressing you.

Do you know what I mean? If not just keep listening. You know, this might help you help sister so and so if it doesn’t apply to you right now. Here in Pittsburgh. from week to week, it seems like we skipped from winter to summer. One day when it was really hot. I was like, God, what is going on? Why is it so hot? He was like Tiffany, heat rises, you have got to expect it to get hotter as you rise to the top. And then he dropped the mic. And let me just tell you that I am sharing a real live conversation between God and I. And I want you to remember that the bounce back blueprint community is a judgment free zone. And so don’t judge me for what I am sharing. So he dropped the mic. And I was feeling kind of stuck. Because I’ll be honest, I don’t really like being cold. But I wasn’t sure I wanted it to get any hotter. I was really questioning whether I wanted to go higher. But God with as much grace as he could muster, as he watched me contemplate whether I wanted to shrink down or level up in the ways he was calling me to. He said it’s time to level up Tiffany. And then he reminded me of a passage in Second Peter chapter one and it is verses one through three. or excuse me, it’s actually verses three through 10. And I’m going to read these verses to you verbatim from the Nivea version and it says his divine power has given us everything we need for God, we live through our knowledge of Him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us His very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness, and to goodness knowledge and to knowledge self control, and to self control perseverance and to preserve variance godliness and to godliness mutual affection and to mutual affection love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and productive and unproductive. Let me say that again. For if you possess these qualities and increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive and your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is near sighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past and therefore my brothers and sisters make every effort to confirm your calling and election for if you do these things, you will never stumble. Whoo. And you know what, at that moment, he could have dropped the mic again. But me being me, I was like, Okay, and so he went on, it’s time to level up. It’s time to stop praying small and using your prayers as an excuse to play small. It’s time to stop half stepping when I am telling you to leap. Did you catch that? It’s time to stop half stepping when God is telling you to leap. It’s time to stop tiptoeing when the earth should be shaking when your feet hit the ground. Basically, it’s time to level up says the first step to leveling up is to elevate your mind. You’ve got to know that you know that you know that it’s bigger than you see because folks will have you think and leveling up means a big House car, sometimes even bigger hair. But all of that is for not if you don’t expand your thoughts to reach the height of the truth that your calling is bigger than you, you can get a bigger house car hair, and you can add zeros to your bank account and still be in the valley. Leveling up isn’t a trajectory your boss or your boo can show you how to pursue. Leveling up is what happens when you hear when you believe when you accept where God has called you to. Even when the heat rises. Leveling up is about getting your mind right. It’s about recognizing that the faith for things hope for will one day be made plain. It’s about the truth that sometimes you have to endure the heat before God will make it rain. And then he said to me again, it’s time to level up. And he told me to reread Second Peter one through three, or excuse me, Second Peter one, verses three through 10. This time, he told me to read it in the message. And so I’m going to read it for you.

And it says everything that goes into a life of pleasing God has been miraculously given to us by getting to know personally and intimately The one who invited us to God, the best invitation we ever received. We were also given absolutely terrific promises to pass on to you your tickets to participation in the life of God after you turn your back on a world corrupted by lust. So don’t lose a minute building on what you’ve been giving. contemplating your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline, passionate patience, reverent wonder, warm friendliness, and genuine generous love, each dimension fitting into and developing the other. With these qualities active and growing in your lives. No grass will grow under your feet. No day will pass without its reward as you mature in your experience of our Master Jesus. Without these qualities, you can’t see what’s right before you oblivious, that your own simple life has been wiped off the books. So friends, confirm God’s invitation to you, his choice of you don’t put it off, do it. Now, do this and you’ll have your life on a firm footing. The streets paved and the way wide open into the eternal kingdom of our master and Savior, Jesus Christ. Oh, and he wasn’t done. He went on to remind me again, it’s time to level up, sis. When you get your mind right, your behaviors will begin to align. And you’ll be less likely to allow people to waste your time, you’ll be less likely to consume those things that don’t serve your spirit, you’ll be less likely to feel the heat and try to go back down there where it’s cool. And I want you to remember in that scripture, I would talk about turning your back on your simple life, right? That’s what it means when it gets hot when the pressure is on when God calls you higher. And it requires more of you and you want to go back to where it’s comfortable and cool. When you recognize the heat is rising. Because it is time for you to rise up. It is time for you to speak up. It is time for you to go higher than God will show you the heat has come because he is affirming the truth. You deserve what you desire, especially when your desires are aligned with what is divine. And I want you to write this down. When you stop praying prayers of procrastination. When you commit to leveling up to your purpose destination, you will welcome to heat waves with no hesitation because as you prepare to level up, you got to let some stuff go. You don’t show up in a snow suit. In the midst of a heatwave this, you don’t bring the baggage of last season when you’re leveling up. Leveling up means letting some stuff go. Some people go leveling up is about growth at Godspeed. And before you go writing a list of the people that you need to let go of, I want you to stop looking outside of you and I want you to go within because leveling up requires you to do some unbecoming. There are some thoughts that you’ve been thinking that cannot go with you on this next level as God is growing you forward. So you really have to get your mind right, you need to check your soundtrack and make sure that God is at the top of that playlist and not what people told you about yourself, not the labels that you’ve been wearing, or the painful thoughts from your past. It’s time to level up and that means getting your mind Right first, it’s a season of unbecoming to become. So before you even think about the leading names out of your phone and deleting friends off your social media start with you, because here’s what I know for sure. When you are in this season of leveling up and you get your mind right, your behaviors are going to change, the places that you go are going to change, the things that you desire are going to change. And naturally, organically, those people who are no longer aligned with your higher thoughts with the season that you are growing into, are going to fall back. Right? This is not about cutting people off. This is not about the cut off culture, this is about you taking the steps and making the decision to do and being have what God is calling you to and doing the work required in this season says it is time to level up. And let me offer you this nugget of truth.

This growth this season of unbecoming to become it is going to come with grief, there is no growth without grieving. Unfortunately, though, we are rarely reminded about the grief associated with growth. And so I, I would be remiss to breeze through this that or to make you believe that all of this growth and leveling up is going to be peaches and cream and all butterflies and you know that happy music is not growth hurts, you know, the old folks used to say things like, Oh, those are just growing pains. But growing pains are real. And so I want you to be sure that as you are in this leveling up process, you are really creating the space to be that you are giving yourself grace to really understand and embrace the woman who God is growing you into. There is a lot of grief associated with growth is not glamorous, but the transformation will certainly be worth it. I would encourage you to get a journal for this season designated specifically for this season of leveling up and write in it every morning, even in the evenings if you have the capacity to do so. And not just about your gratitude, but the raw and real truth of the experience that comes with unbecoming to become and here are some questions that you can ask yourself weekly has my own willingness to grieve stunted my growth or is my unwillingness to grieve stunting my growth? Am I stuck or feeling stuck because I am struggling with the process to um become in order to become who God has called and created me to be? And what songs or thoughts are on my soundtrack that I need to get rid of for God to get the glory with the way that I’m living my life and the story that comes with the way that I am living my life. So if you missed those, I would say go back, you know, rewind, grab your journal, and really begin to dig into this process of unbecoming, embrace the grief because it is part of your journey to growth.

So after God got me together, after he called the weather here in Pittsburgh down a bit after I took several naps, and played a few games of words were friends, I decided it was time for me to prepare for what I had been praying for. It was time for me to decide I could accept this heat. And I am ready for more. I decided to level up to align with the divine. I decided that I am going to wake up every day with the expectation of power of peace and prosperity. It’s time to level up and I want to know Are you with me? Listen, another part of leveling up is recognizing that you need help. And I knew that part of my level of required me to invest in being God’s best. And that meant that I had to enlist some help. So I got a new coach. I still have my therapist and I have a powerful squad of prayer partners that I come together with once a week and so I want you to consider what you need and invest in the help that is required. This invest is going to require your time, my prayer partners meet at 630. In the morning, every Thursday, I’m already up. But even if I wasn’t, it would be a season of stretching for me. Because that’s what leveling up means. That’s where you start to feel the heat when it’s like, Oh, God, please. And then he fulfills your prayer, and it requires more of you. So if you need help, you have to be willing to take the steps and invest the time and the treasure to get it. The coach that I hired, was a huge investment. But I recognize that for me to become the woman who God has called and created me to be, it’s going to require me to invest God has already invested in me, and he’s already invested in you. And so he’s modeling that for you. If you need some support, it is okay. Again, level up your thoughts, I would love to be your support, I would love to be your coach. Like I said, I am opening up space in my client roster. And you can grab a link in the show notes and schedule your breakthrough session. Let’s work together in this season of leveling up so that you can be doing have all that God has called you to. Here’s what I know for sure. And as always what I leave you with, God is not going to play you says but if you are praying prayers of procrastination, as God is preparing you to rise to the top and you don’t want any more heat, so you praying for him to stop. You are definitely playing your self. My prayer for you this week is that you align with the divine and prepare to rise. It is time to level up. And before I let you go if this episode has been a blessing for you, please take a moment and leave a review. When you do you create an opportunity for other beacons like you to find this space this community and all that is being shared here as she is on her level of growing forward, bounce back journey as well. I love you and I look forward to chatting with you. In the next episode billions of blessings.